Recommended Reading: Lillian Bassman: Lingerie

I’ve been really lucky to have been on the receiving end of only one troll-ish comment so far. I had reviewed . . . something, let me see . . . oh! The Panache Cami-Top. I love it, but we’re not really talking about the most glamorous of the glamorous lingerie. I found it a great, comfortable, practical addition to my casual wardrobe, thought I’d share my thoughts, and moved on with my life. A few hours after posting the review, the following popped up in my moderation queue:

“Please, ladies, accept the opinion from a humble man. Size doesn’t matter. Push ups make us laugh. Criss Cross lines…we know the trick…You know waht [sic]? The real secret for a perfect bra is the way you wear it. Be confident and with your own sexy attitude. Accept your body and love it, because it’s beautiful and unique. Do not fall into the trap of fashion mkt [sic] and just be yourself. That’s what a man likes more than anything else: a smart, pretty woman with a bit of self irony and a touch of class.”

OH. NOW I KNOW WHAT MEN (all of the men! men everywhere!) LIKE. WHAT A RELIEF. The anticipation/suspense from not knowing was KILLING ME SOFTLY. Also, pray, good sir, what the fuck is the “trick” of the “criss cross lines” of which you speak? I do not think it means what you think it means. Also, I do not think it means anything at all. OH MY GOD, I JUST GOT MANSPLAINED TO! Man, I feel like a woman.

If this concern troll had actually read my post instead of just spouting off his condescending benedictions all over the place, he should have had the decency/cognitive function/critical reading skills to notice that I never actually mentioned sexiness, attractiveness, the relative merits of my cleavage, dissatisfaction with my boobs, insecurity with my body, sexy lingerie, “class”, or my feelings on fashion. Come to that, I didn’t even mention anything about my sexual orientation. Instead, I assume he saw the words “boobs” and “lingerie” in close proximity and decided that I, as many do, believe that lingerie is for one thing and one thing only: pleasing a male viewer.

Bless him, he must be new here.

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Yes, there is a gash down the front cover because I was careless with the scissors opening the box from Amazon. Yes, I wanted to cry like a child when it happened. (“The Mode of the Princesse- Everything Black and Lacy.”  Lingerie by Lily of France, 1954, for Harper’s Bazaar)

I checked this out of the library last year, and I haven’t been able to get it out of my mind since. I was checking out books about the history of lingerie, what lingerie meant, what lingerie was “sexy” (there are some really bad lingerie books out there), bra fitting, etc. etc., and then in one of my holds appeared this stunning oversized book of black-and-white photography. I don’t think I’d ever seen lingerie photographed like this before.

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Model: Barbara Curly. early 1950s (advertisement for La Roche)

I received a gift card from one of my supervisors for Christmas this year, and as much as I told myself I “should” spend it on something practical, I followed Roommate’s advice of only using gift cards on things you wouldn’t ordinarily buy yourself and ordered a copy for myself. And a copy of Mastering the Art of French Cooking. And one of those clipless curling irons. And an ethernet cable, because I had to throw in one practical thing. ANYHOO.

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“It’s a Cinch.” Model: Carmen. Lingerie by Warner’s, 1951.

Lillian Bassman started working in “feminine photography” (as described by Seventeen Magazine) for Harper’s Bazaar in 1948 and pretty much created the idea of the lingerie fashion spread as we know it today. She was keenly, passionately interested in women, their intimate moods, their style. In 2008 she told the New Yorker “I think my contribution . . . has been to photograph fashion with a woman’s eye for a woman’s intimate feelings.” The lingerie industry was starting to bloom again in the post World War II fashion scene, but it was also in upheaval: the end of post-war rationing, the dramatic decrease in demand for old-fashioned corsets, new developments in materials and technology, unionization of garment workers, and the New Look inspired by Christian Dior created an environment desperate for change, new perspective, and artistry. Lillian Bassman had it all.

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Bassman working with one of her models.

What makes the photographs extraordinary is that not only were they ground-breaking and game-changing when she took them, but they’re still startling today, in an age of come-hither, Photoshopped uniformity. The women are lovely and unique (well, to an extent: they’re all white, young, and slim, but baby steps), and the photographs are breathtakingly intimate. Lingerie IS sexy. Women are sexy. Intimacy is sexy. Women in lingerie have historically been pleasing to the eye of the beholder. Lillian Bassman’s photographs don’t ignore that, but they’re so much more interested in the women in the photos, wearing the lingerie, than they are in the viewer. I want to BE that woman, instead of ogling her. I don’t want to BE her just because she’s pleasing to men. I want to tap into the intimate, relaxed, radiant ease. The privacy, the peace, the beauty.

The photographs don’t say “this is how all women should be.” They say “this is how this one woman is.” It’s true; I would love to wear this lingerie in the knowledge that a man I adored was looking at me and dying to unlace, unwrap, and uncover me, but that’s not the only thing I see in Bassman’s photos. I see women happy in their own skin, comfortable in their routines, finding moments of joy and relaxation even in the mundane activity of getting dressed. When I compare them to the straining, artificial, almost desperate come-hitherdom of, say, a Victoria’s Secret catalogue, I know which ones I find enticing. A woman luxuriating quietly in her own being and beauty is a glorious thing.

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“Pink Looks Beautiful Overnight.” Nightgown by Van Raalte, 1954.

I’d like for all women to find lingerie that helps them tap into this radiance. It doesn’t have to be for every day or every occasion.  Bassman’s photographs are a wonder in that I don’t look at them and feel badly about myself, as I do when faced with many other kinds of advertising photographs (skin, hair, nails, belly, lips, makeup, etc. etc.).  There’s a sense of recognition, of friendliness, of true intimacy.

Here are a few more of my favorites.  I love them as much for the mood and beauty as for the lingerie.  Could someone please make me all of this lingerie?  Merci!

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“The Yawn.” Model: Vicky Lyons, 1949.

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“Nylon Tricot Dream Fabric for Lingerie.” Model: Margie Cato, peignoir by Vanity Fair, for Harper’s Bazaar 1948

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This one is totally one of my favorites. Look at the absurd, nonchalant overabundance of that robe. Divine. Model: Dorian Leigh, c. 1950 stocking advertisement

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“Southwest Passage Sunset: Pink.” Pajamas by Kickernick, 1951

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“The Brown Chiffon Nightgown.” Model: Suzy Parker, nightgown by Fischer, 1951

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Model: Evelyn Milroy, early 1950s. Advertisement for Delsey toilet paper.  That’s right.  Toilet paper.  This is the most beautiful toilet paper ad the world has ever seen.

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“The Line Lengthens.” 1955.

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“The Bride in a Carefree Cloud.” Model: Olga Nichols, nightgown by Carter’s, 1953

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Model: Evelyn Milroy, early 1950s

Lillian Bassman: Lingerie
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Recommended Reading: How To Be a Woman, by Caitlin Moran

I have a new best friend, a new girl crush, a new hero.  You must, you must, you must, you MUST read this book.  I don’t care if you’re a dude or a lady.

I am deeply gratified that I found out about this book when it got furiously “shared” on Facebook by some of my closest friends.  Carry on, Awesome Ladies.

Up until college, I emphatically and uncaringly said I was a feminist.  I was down with women’s rights and the vote, ergo: Feminist.  Done.  Simple.  And then one day in the cafe outside the university’s theater, while we were all blearily caffeinating ourselves, I said something scathing about a new women’s group on campus that was for-traditional-values-anti-women’s-liberation or something and had written a soul-crushingly stupid and self-righteously-irritating editorial in the college newspaper about A Woman’s Place Being in the Home, and the talented, intelligent, funny, and lovely woman waiting for her caffeine drip with me quietly and firmly said “I don’t consider myself a feminist.”

I literally gaped at her, stunned into silence.  I had assumed anyone in this day and age who claimed to be anti-feminist was just a wing-nut, ignorant and backwards and embarrassing.  All women, surely, were feminists; how could they not be?  Equal rights and opportunities for all of humanity: that’s what feminism was about, right?  So when I heard this talented, intelligent, funny, and lovely woman say with a hint of pride that she wasn’t a feminist, I shut up and started looking around and listening. Continue reading

Compliments, and also Recommended Reading: Be Less Crazy About Your Body by Megan Dietz

Lady Mary recently recommended (in response to Fighting) a short book called Be Less Crazy About Your Body. It’s by a hilarious writer named Megan Dietz, and the Kindle version is only $2.99, and Kindle books cost pretend money anyway (wheeeee credit card bill!), so I bought that sucker right up. I love pretty much everything about it. It took me fewer than two commutes to finish, and I was nodding in recognition the whole time. She has lots of stories, wisecracks, examples, and helpful tips for, as the title says, being less crazy about our bodies. Because y’all? We’re kind of crazy about our bodies.

I’m not talking about body-focused people like athletes who are training or conditioning, or unhealthy eaters (sigh, hello, my name is Sweets, and sometimes I eat dessert for breakfast) who decide to make healthier eating choices. I’m talking about when we accept the crazy thoughts our brains churn out as absolute and unyielding truths, and then lock those crazy thoughts into a pattern of permanence.

Like, here’s an example. For some reason it’s socially acceptable, nay, expected, for women to talk shit about their bodies. Now, if we’re Ladies, we know not to shit-talk other women’s bodies (if you can’t say something nice, etc., which logically we should apply to ourselves, but we never do). So we decide the only alternative is to talk shit about our own bodies. It becomes a security blanket, a crutch, a social lubricant as appealing as any alcoholic beverage. Meeting new ladies in a group? Want to tell one of them you like her dress/hair/shoes? Be sure to add “I wish I had your/I hate my” so everyone is reassured that you don’t actually feel good about yourself. Then the other party is free to respond “What, are you kidding me? I need to lose 1000 pounds and my hair is gross.” As Megan says, “Girls, girls, don’t fight, you’re both revolting.” Continue reading

Recommended Reading: Busted! By Ali Cudby

If I had to choose a gift for a teenage girl (or her mom), I’d be that awkward friend who gave her this book. Y’all, it’s so great.  It really is.  It’s short, sweet, matter-of-fact, and astoundingly comprehensive on the subject of boobs and bras. Ali Cudby is the founder and CEO of FabFoundations™, a bra-fitting service that seeks to empower every woman to understand, love, and fit her breasts, no matter her age or size. There are some heartbreaking personal anecdotes sprinkled throughout (a mother whose teenage daughter had just been fitted into a 32G bra wrote to Ali: “Should I get her a breast reduction?” Ali’s response was much less ragey than mine would have been) and straightforward, easy-to-understand advice. Ali talks about her personal experience growing up with ill-fitting bras, and the life-changing joy she felt when (like me!) she discovered Bravissimo. She went on to develop and market a fitting technique called the FabFit™ Formula that spells out all of the points a woman should check to ensure her bra fits her well.

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Taken at the office with my mad photography skillz. On a Sunday. Which I am not melodramatically grumpy about or anything. Sweets: Totally Not Blogging At Work.

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